Writing a New Chapter.
Part one of this blog was inspired by taking my daughter to see the West End musical Wicked over the summer holidays and noticing what a wonderful example of what happens when ‘fixed’ reality meets a different perspective. Noticing what happens when the story we know to be ‘true’ is viewed from a completely different perspective is similar to my experience of guiding clients on their journey from . Once a story is experienced from a new viewpoint, further perspectives and realities open up for us.
In the light of this, I wrote part one of this blog in order to challenge readers to consider what their current story, script, narrative, character, role, behaviours and outcomes would look like as a fairy tale from the positions of impartial and non-judgmental author and audience.
Why is this so important? Knowing your story lenses (biases, beliefs and assumptions etc) is knowing yourself, being aware of what triggers reactions or causes discomfort, what makes you happy and charges your batteries, how other people around you work and react in complex systems of other people. In short, awareness of yourself, others and the world around you.
So, with this and your story in mind, I invite you to consider what you would most like to:
About the story you wrote –
Consider this to be the storyboard template for the next chapter in your story. This is the chapter where we build a B.R.I.D.G.E. from our current story to where we decide we want our new chapter to take us and what we want that to be like.
Consider what baggage your character has collected and carried with them throughout your story. Imagine the contents in a large and heavy sack or, indeed, multiple. In order to move to the next chapter, your character has to go through the Eye of the Needle Gate. Perhaps you’ve heard of the Eye of the Needle in the biblical parable about the rich man who wanted to get to heaven. This gate was a small, ‘after hours’ entrance into the city of Jerusalem when all the main gates were closed. The idea was that anyone wanting to enter the city walls after hours would have to unload their camel one pack at a time and then carefully guide the animal through the small entrance. It was a slow and tedious task.
Imagine you can take a small backpack through the narrow gate with you. There is still the contents of your previous baggage plus a tree of resources. Resources could be strengths, beliefs, thoughts, values, behaviour, attitudes, talents, understanding, awareness, support, etc.
Now that you have some structure to your next chapter, what will you choose to do?
What have you found most difficult so far?
What next steps will you plan?
What will keep you on track?
How can your coach support you with this?
I would love to hear your stories and new chapters. These stories can be so valuable in developing your awareness and remember, the things we are unaware of control us but we have control of the things we see, know and understand.
What else might you not be fully seeing after this work? What’s next?
As follow up work, try putting other characters in your story in the leading role. Play with putting your character into 5 different narrative situations and identify the story, the narrative, the characters identity in this new narrative, their new behaviours and new plot outcomes.
It may sound like a lot of work, but ask yourself how much your character is worth? Do you choose the old story and backdrop or is it time for a change?
Wishing you a wonderful week and looking forward to hearing from you!