Frequently Asked Questions

Is coaching a kind of consulting?

Companies call consultants to quickly fix a specific problem. A consultant analyses the problem and tells the people involved what they should do and how to do it. They are usually experts in the ‘problem’ field.

Coaching helps people to develop a wider awareness of the situation reality and their part in it. It empowers people to observe more options from new perspectives in order to make the best choices. Choice improves responsibility and the ability to learn how to unlock their own / group potential in order to generate their own strategies and take full ownership and control of the situation. A coach supports this entire process and teams are left empowered and able to cope with any other situation that comes along with confidence.

Is coaching a form of therapy?

Therapy works backwards in order to discover what trauma or issue in your past life is affecting your behavior today. Therapy is mostly talking things through and remembering details of past problems.

Coaching takes you from today and looks forwards towards your vision and goals for what you want in life. We work positively on strengths, talents, beliefs, habits and ways we can move forwards to your goal and beyond. The coaching process is dynamic. You will be expected to work and carryout the action steps you say you are going to undertake. You will try new things, new ways of thinking and perhaps step out of your comfort zone (with all the support you need). You will actively evaluate the learning opportunities that come from your actions and use this information to design next steps. You will take responsibility for your own success and actively work towards achieving it.

If you answered yes to these questions, then coaching is right for you.

Are you able to agree to all the points below? How motivated are you to work on the change you want to see?

  • I will be honest and open in coaching sessions and understand the importance of confidentiality.
  • I am ready to commit my time, energy and effort to invest in my coaching success.
  • I am fully accountable for my life, my decisions & my actions.
  • I take responsibility for my coaching actions, learning and successes.
  • I will book my sessions one month in advance and create a positive coaching habit.
  • I will use the *weekly planner and *monthly review tools to help develop my positive life changes.
  • I am ready to raise my awareness, take responsibility for my life, take action and make positive changes in my environment, my habits and my life…”

Look at your answers to the above questions. Is Coaching right for you?

Is coaching like mentoring ?

Mentoring is sharing information and the meaning of experience with someone, usually younger and wanting to learn the same lessons. It is helping them to take and understand what you yourself have spent many years learning. Mentors give specific answers to specific questions from one point of view. An apprentice can, therefore only learn as much as their mentor knows and shares.

Coaching, by contrast is all about seeing the potential in others and using powerful questioning to get the very best out of that person. It is actually generally better to have a non-specialist as your coach in order to ensure the answers and solutions are found and owned by you rather than given or led by someone else. That way the responsibility, choice, control and success is also all yours!

I empower you to take your hidden potential, whatever that may be- and shine!

What is the basic principle behind coaching?

Coaching is completely confidential. It involves creating a trusting and supportive partnership. It uses powerful techniques that encourage and support you to:

  • Stop the reactive hamster wheel,
  • Re-think and reevaluate situations from different perspectives,
  • Increase awareness of situations and yourself
  • Set, clarify and maintain goal focus
  • Recognise new possibilities, new opportunities and new resources
  • Notice what is holding us back; blind-spots, barriers, old habits, negative beliefs

How long does a coaching relationship last?

The first important thing to consider is that we meet and ‘feel’ if we have the right chemistry for a successful and productive partnership before coaching begins. We need to be open and honest with each other in this very first session.

If we feel we could work well together, my Coaching Agreement suggests a minimal, initial coaching period of 3 months. The reason for this being the scientifically proven amount of time we need to discover, change and reset old, negative habits, ideas and behaviours into supporting ones that bring us success and happiness.

Some people come for coaching to work on one specific, short-term goal. Others choose to work see where the journey takes them. Some leadership clients enjoy the regular support of an honest and trusted sparring partner. Some know exactly what they want and work towards their goal. Some spend more time deciding and defining what their vision and goal might be.

Everyone is different.

You are free to finish coaching any time you want to.

What does a typical coaching session look like?

We generally look briefly at what has happened since last session and the learning opportunities you experienced.

You set the agenda for the session (what you want to achieve in the time)

You decide what success would look like & what you want to take away the session with you.

We explore what elements are important to you, what success will look like, what it will bring you, what the opportunities represent etc.

We work together to discover options, strategies, resources, support systems, overcome possible obstacles and gain clarity and confidence.

You summarise the session; what has been said and what insights have come up and transfer this learning into possible action steps to help transition to the next step on the way to your bigger goal..

You choose and clarify small, achievable and positive action steps, make sure the necessary resources are in place and look at commitment, motivation and accountability and how to keep these elements supporting us between session.

I ask for session feedback and you have the opportunity to readjust the coaching experience to improve and tailor future sessions to be the best and most productive they can be for you.

You can think of me as rather like a taxi driver. You set the destination and I get you there safely, happy and confident, regardless of diversions, roadblocks or holes in the road!

Why do you offer different coaching session timings?

Sometimes people need 60 minute, short, fast-paced, action orientated coaching sessions more frequently for whatever reason.

Some like to spend time discussion learning, insights, situations or issues that they came across between sessions and what this means for following sessions. These 90 minute sessions can go a little deeper and take the time to clarify and understand each stage better.

3 hour sessions are for times in the coaching process when you choose to go deeper into a particular issue, perhaps setting and clarifying a vision, looking deeper into your values and how to use these as a resource, creating a mission statement.

You are an individual with individual needs and individual situations. The core reason for offering different timings is simply to best support what you need most at the right time for you. You can mix and match as you like. Most clients tend to appreciate these 90 minute sessions 2x per month as their ‘normal routine.’

What can I expect from working with a coach

So what can you expect from a coaching session?

There are a number of different coaching styles and options:

Face to face coaching

Some of us simply prefer face-to-face coaching interaction. We feel more comfortable being able to ‘feel’ non-verbal communication such as hand gestures, facial expressions, eye contact and the closer relationship with another person.  Working with the written results in front of you can really help some people to get clarity.

Of course, your location and timetable can limit your coaching session options. Travel time and costs are also a consideration with face-to-face coaching.

How it works:

We sit and work together to discover options, solutions and action steps for moving forward positively.

You choose action steps and we ensure you have the best tools to work with and succeed.

We decide on a deadline for the tasks to be completed by.

We evaluate what happened and what was learned from your experience at the next meeting.

I send all your notes to you electronically

Video coaching

Some of us enjoy the convenience and personal aspects of video call coaching. This kind of coaching offers another real-time, face-to-face coaching option.

We can use whatever face to face calling option is best for you, FaceTime, WhatsApp or Skype. Skype also offers the option of sharing files and notes from screen to screen in real-time, sharing a screen and being able to connect with the full range of communication (body language, tone, gestures etc).

Video coaching works very well from any geographical location or time zone, is flexible and can be fitted into any timetable. We can connect instantly and we will have a live feed of each other.

I would still recommend meeting up in person to connect from time to time, but relationships can and do still develop very well using only video discussions.

How it works:

We see each other via a live video link and work together to discover options, solutions and action steps for moving forward positively. You will see all the notes on the whiteboard as we work.

You choose action steps and we ensure you have the best tools to work with and succeed.

We decide on a deadline for the tasks to be completed by.

We evaluate what happened and what was learned from your experience at the next meeting.

I send all your notes to you electronically

Telephone coaching

Some people are happier when they don’t have to travel far, don’t have to get dressed up, don’t have to leave the office or home (or tidy it up!) for a coaching visit. Some people also feel that they can be more open and honest when they aren’t looking at the person they are speaking to.

Very few people don’t have a mobile phone to hand these days, making telephone coaching incredibly convenient, flexible and practical.

I would still recommend meeting up in person initially to connect but relationships can and do still develop very well using only video discussions.

How it works:

We speak to each other over telephone and work together to discover options, solutions and action steps for moving forward positively.

You choose action steps and we ensure you have the best tools to work with and succeed.

We decide on a deadline for the tasks to be completed by.

We evaluate what happened and what was learned from your experience at the next meeting.

I send all your notes to you electronically

I listen, challenge, support and guide my clients to move forwards positively towards their goals. It doesn’t matter to me which form of communication we use; it can also be a mixture, the most important aspect is which method is right for you?